Teiva's Canadian Journey and Family Reflections
August 15, 2025
Episode Notes
Morning .
Good morning .
You're not Ed .
Where's Ed ?
Yeah , he's busy .
He's busy .
OK , well , wait a minute , wait a minute , we met a couple weeks ago , didn't we ?
Yeah , we did .
OK , and you told me that your name is Elan , right ?
No .
Can you OK , that's your brother .
So what's your name ?
My name's Tava .
Deva , OK , Deva , tell me , um , what's your dad doing right now ?
Is he having ?
No , I think he's making lunch actually .
Uh , who does most of the cooking in your house ?
Actually , dad and mom do it about the same .
Fifty-fifty , eh ?
50/50 .
You learn how to cook at home or are you like a non-cook ?
I sometimes cook with them .
OK , OK , that's not bad then .
See , I can't cook with my sons because I'm never whole .
00 , OK .
Yeah , yeah .
Tell me about your dad .
Is he home most of the time , or is he not home most of the time ?
50/50 .
OK , so tell me , dad's home half of the time and mom's home half of the time .
Oh , so it's covered , hey .
Who's stricter ?
Oh Mom ?
OK , maybe , probably .
Probably .
That sounds like my family too .
My wife is a lot stricter with my boys than I am .
I'm totally loose .
Yeah , yeah , yeah .
And what do you think ?
Is strict better or is loose better ?
Depends .
You have to explain that .
So , They , I don't know .
Fun time loses is better , uh , serious time , strict is better .
OK , and what's a serious time ?
Like when We don't do our homework , or when Don't listen or You see , um , my younger son wants me to chase him to do his homework .
Oh .
And I don't .
I say , ah , you wanna do your homework , do your homework .
You don't want to do your homework , don't do your homework , your problem .
And He thinks that that's harder .
Probably , that's what I I I'm saying like , I need a stricter sometimes .
OK , OK , so it's good to get help when you can't be strict to yourself .
Yes .
Yes .
Now , wait a minute , you're gonna be going to Canada soon , right ?
Yep .
Can you be strict on yourself in high school ?
Now you're bigger .
Yeah , but I don't know .
I wouldn't know until I get there , so .
Sure , that's fair .
That's I , I understand .
What about your grandparents ?
I don't know how it's gonna be , like , I , I don't know how it's gonna be since I've been in Japan for my whole life and I haven't had Canadian .
Education .
OK , sure .
But I , I don't know how it's gonna go .
Right , right .
What about your grandparents ?
Are they strict ?
Maybe .
See , I've , I've heard most grandparents aren't usually strict .
They're really , really soft on their grandchildren .
Hm .
That's the , that's the sort of model I have in my head .
They're strict with their kids , and then they're really soft with their grandchildren .
Yeah , I guess you can say that .
Yeah , yeah , yeah .
So that means you're gonna have to be strict on yourself in , in high school .
But it doesn't mean that my grandparents aren't strict .
It it means they're not .
Too strict there .
Loosen up .
OK , now , I don't know where you're going , but I remember your dad telling me that he used to take the boat to go to school .
Yeah .
Are you gonna have to take a boat to go to school ?
Yep .
Actually , I think I'm gonna take a little ferry type of thing every morning since There's only one boat in the family .
OK , so you mean the ferry is gonna be more convenient or is it safer ?
Uh , convenient .
OK , OK , so you're not worried about going on boats by yourself , eh ?
No , no , no , I'm fine with that .
Hey , can you swim ?
Yeah .
Oh , OK , OK , and .
What about the water there ?
Is it cold ?
Yes .
OK , so you don't want to fall in the water .
Yeah , no , I don't want to fall in there , but if it's summertime , it's pretty refreshing .
Oh yeah , yeah , there's a good word for it .
Hey , I'm looking at the time right now and I , I've got a lot of work to do today .
Do you mind if I short here .
Yep .
It's OK .
Mhm .
OK , I wanna say thanks for your time and have a great time in Canada .
Yep , thank you too .
OK , I'll say goodbye .
Bye bye .
Bye .
Good morning .
You're not Ed .
Where's Ed ?
Yeah , he's busy .
He's busy .
OK , well , wait a minute , wait a minute , we met a couple weeks ago , didn't we ?
Yeah , we did .
OK , and you told me that your name is Elan , right ?
No .
Can you OK , that's your brother .
So what's your name ?
My name's Tava .
Deva , OK , Deva , tell me , um , what's your dad doing right now ?
Is he having ?
No , I think he's making lunch actually .
Uh , who does most of the cooking in your house ?
Actually , dad and mom do it about the same .
Fifty-fifty , eh ?
50/50 .
You learn how to cook at home or are you like a non-cook ?
I sometimes cook with them .
OK , OK , that's not bad then .
See , I can't cook with my sons because I'm never whole .
00 , OK .
Yeah , yeah .
Tell me about your dad .
Is he home most of the time , or is he not home most of the time ?
50/50 .
OK , so tell me , dad's home half of the time and mom's home half of the time .
Oh , so it's covered , hey .
Who's stricter ?
Oh Mom ?
OK , maybe , probably .
Probably .
That sounds like my family too .
My wife is a lot stricter with my boys than I am .
I'm totally loose .
Yeah , yeah , yeah .
And what do you think ?
Is strict better or is loose better ?
Depends .
You have to explain that .
So , They , I don't know .
Fun time loses is better , uh , serious time , strict is better .
OK , and what's a serious time ?
Like when We don't do our homework , or when Don't listen or You see , um , my younger son wants me to chase him to do his homework .
Oh .
And I don't .
I say , ah , you wanna do your homework , do your homework .
You don't want to do your homework , don't do your homework , your problem .
And He thinks that that's harder .
Probably , that's what I I I'm saying like , I need a stricter sometimes .
OK , OK , so it's good to get help when you can't be strict to yourself .
Yes .
Yes .
Now , wait a minute , you're gonna be going to Canada soon , right ?
Yep .
Can you be strict on yourself in high school ?
Now you're bigger .
Yeah , but I don't know .
I wouldn't know until I get there , so .
Sure , that's fair .
That's I , I understand .
What about your grandparents ?
I don't know how it's gonna be , like , I , I don't know how it's gonna be since I've been in Japan for my whole life and I haven't had Canadian .
Education .
OK , sure .
But I , I don't know how it's gonna go .
Right , right .
What about your grandparents ?
Are they strict ?
Maybe .
See , I've , I've heard most grandparents aren't usually strict .
They're really , really soft on their grandchildren .
Hm .
That's the , that's the sort of model I have in my head .
They're strict with their kids , and then they're really soft with their grandchildren .
Yeah , I guess you can say that .
Yeah , yeah , yeah .
So that means you're gonna have to be strict on yourself in , in high school .
But it doesn't mean that my grandparents aren't strict .
It it means they're not .
Too strict there .
Loosen up .
OK , now , I don't know where you're going , but I remember your dad telling me that he used to take the boat to go to school .
Yeah .
Are you gonna have to take a boat to go to school ?
Yep .
Actually , I think I'm gonna take a little ferry type of thing every morning since There's only one boat in the family .
OK , so you mean the ferry is gonna be more convenient or is it safer ?
Uh , convenient .
OK , OK , so you're not worried about going on boats by yourself , eh ?
No , no , no , I'm fine with that .
Hey , can you swim ?
Yeah .
Oh , OK , OK , and .
What about the water there ?
Is it cold ?
Yes .
OK , so you don't want to fall in the water .
Yeah , no , I don't want to fall in there , but if it's summertime , it's pretty refreshing .
Oh yeah , yeah , there's a good word for it .
Hey , I'm looking at the time right now and I , I've got a lot of work to do today .
Do you mind if I short here .
Yep .
It's OK .
Mhm .
OK , I wanna say thanks for your time and have a great time in Canada .
Yep , thank you too .
OK , I'll say goodbye .
Bye bye .
Bye .